Unpopular Opinion: I’m a Size 0, I HATE IT, and This is Why!

Happy Saturday guys! The weekend creeps upon us once again! As I’ve been so busy and thinking of a different sort of post to write, I’ve decided to take a step back and take the filter off, so to speak. Maybe the winter is just getting to me, maybe I just want to start off 2018 being a bit more “real,” but I figured it was time to give the pretty glittery stuff a little rest for a moment and talk about something hard for a change!

Not a single one of us is without body issues. Some of us may hide it better than others, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t hidden underneath the surface. That’s totally okay, because it’s part of the human experience. We all have them. That being said, I wanted to bring a different perspective to the table…one that isn’t usually talked about and often swept under the rug.

I am a tiny size 0 (in US sizes, at least). I know there’s many people out there who see that as ideal and beautiful, but I want to make it clear that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be and that if I had a choice, I would’ve never wanted this. If there was anything I could do to change this, I would do it without a second thought. My genes happened to mix up a certain way and come out in the combination they did, and I’m stuck with the results whether I like it or not!

You’d be shocked how many people I encounter IRL who don’t seem to understand this, and I wanted to put some facts out there to clear things up.

First and foremost, I LOVE food! You’ve probably guessed that if you’ve been reading the recipes I’ve posted. I spend A LOT of time thinking about what I want on the menu in our house for the coming week, what new things I want to try next time I go shopping, and so on. I would say I have a very healthy relationship with food. It’s not weird, hostile or an otherwise messy issue in any way. Therefore it’s hard not to get offended when someone accuses me of having an eating disorder, which SO MANY A**HOLES DO!! And I wonder, just…WHY? Is there that many people that have just never seen a thin person before? Or never seen anyone who doesn’t look just like them? That doesn’t fit their definition of “normal?” The world is a tough place for some of us who forget that not everyone is as open minded and as tolerant as we are. We often think everyone is as nice and kind as we are, but the sad reality is that it isn’t the case. There’s all kinds, good and bad. All we can do is teach others to be tolerant in the best way we know how. Chances are that if you read here regularly then you already do this, but I hope this prompts you to encourage even one person to be a bit more open minded.

“OMG…do you ever eat?!”

That’s a stupid question.

I know, I wish I could say there are no such things as stupid questions but unfortunately sometimes, there can be. This is one of them, and it’s one I get asked more often than I ever thought possible!

Doesn’t every living thing HAVE TO eat to LIVE? Us, animals, plants, everything?? Even little amoebas need to get energy in some form. Asking someone if they eat is like asking if they breathe oxygen! So yes, I am a living being that eats and breathes oxygen just like everyone else!

“You need to EAT MORE!!!!”

Uhh…No.

I do not.

That’s another one I get pretty often, and one can’t truly know how frustrating it is unless it happens to you. I eat until I am full, just like any other person who has a healthy relationship with food. Sometimes it’s a little, sometimes it’s a lot. I’ll eat as much as I can handle without over-stuffing myself. “Eating more” won’t do anything besides make me sluggish, so why should I do that and waste food that I could be saving for later? Again, very few people understand when I explain this. They insist I could just “eat more” and *POOF!* As if they know anything about MY body. *facepalm x10000* Trust me, if “eating more” was an option, don’t you think I would have done that a lonnnnggggg time ago?!

My only “restriction” (if you can call it that) is that I do my best to avoid GMOs and weird ingredients I can’t pronounce. I encourage others to do the same and to look for the shortest list of ingredients on their food labels when grocery shopping. If there’s a whole effing long ass paragraph on the contents label, I think it would be in everybody’s best interest to pass it up for something with less mystery ingredients if possible.

People these days are usually pretty understanding when I explain this, but once in a while I’ll get that person who says “You don’t NEED to eat healthy stuff!” As if losing weight is the only reason to eat healthy? *sighs.* Then I have to explain that everyone should eat foods that make them feel good, whether they’re “dieting” or not!

“Oh you like healthy food, THAT’s why you’re so skinny!”

No, it is not. My desire to eat good food has nothing to do with being skinny!

By the way, I want you to try something. Go on Instagram and search the hashtags #skinny #thin and #thighgap. A WARNING pops up! GRAPHIC CONTENT you guys!! Because thin women are just OH SO OFFENSIVE they will make your eyeballs bleed!!!! Ugh. The #fat hashtag however, is totally okay you guys!!! #bodypositive

Yes, I get that there’s a lot of girls who do starve themselves and go on social media looking for further starvation inspiration and documenting their progress. Yes, those girls need help. But should they be lumped in with ALL skinny people whether they can help how they look or not? I say HELL NO!

Which brings me to my next point. I have a “thigh gap.” I do not want nor did I ever ask for a “thigh gap.” I did not roll out of bed one day and decide that obtaining a thigh gap would be one of my goals. But I have one whether I want one or not. But wait! Thigh gaps AREN’T REAL! REAL women don’t have those silly stupid fake thigh gaps you guyssss!!! Only fake photoshopped women have thoseeee!!!!

Oh, and my favorite…

“OMG Guys ONLY like big girls!!!!! Guys don’t like skinny girlsss!!!!”

Oh, do kindly f*** off! Guys like whatever the hell they decide they like. Some like black hair, some like blond. Some like green eyes, some like blue or brown. Some guys like girls and some guys like guys. Different guys prefer girls of all different skin colors. Some even like imperfections, like moles or messed up teeth. But NOT ALL guys have to only like “big girls.” They do not all have to prefer big girls over any other body type, and to go around telling women that only big girls are desirable is damaging.

Aside from being asked questions so frustrating that you don’t know how to manage an answer anymore or being told you don’t need to eat healthy, imagine growing up as a skinny kid and being told by people (including your family who should know better) that you should gain weight because you would be more attractive, more desirable, and just overall better because you clearly aren’t good enough the way you are. Imagine seeing ads showing “real women” (Dove, for example, which I will bitch about in a separate post) and none of them look like you. But OMG those women are REAL U GUYZ!! That’s what REAL WOMEN LOOK LIKE!! Not those fake skinny bitches that don’t even exist in real life…these are REAL WOMEN!! *bangs head on wall*

See that adorable outfit on that mannequin you just have to have? Tough s**t, the smallest size is a medium. You can try it on just to see, but as badly as you want to make it work, it doesn’t look hopeful. But do not bother complaining about your clothes shopping issues around other women, OH NO, you don’t get to do that. Your problems are not real. Only “big girls” get to vent about their problems, and if you try to, you will get called “anorexic” and told to just shut up. Because, ya know, you must not have any legitimate problems like other “real” women have. You aren’t real and neither are your problems. Woohooo!

You could also be strolling down the street minding your own business when a random stranger who happens to have an empty soul full of evil and contempt decides to tell you to “eat a cheeseburger.” Yes, this has happened MORE THAN ONCE. What is going through these awful people’s minds, I have no clue. I will never begin to understand what makes them think that is acceptable behavior. I mean, shouting insults at random people?! Come on! But unfortunately, if your a thin woman people think this is okay to do to you. We all know they wouldn’t dare go up to a heavy person and tell them to stop eating or “cut out the cheeseburgers” because that would be OH SO MEANNNNN!!! You can’t say thatttttt!!!You’ll hurt their feeeeelllinngssss!!!! But skinny girls have no feelings and no real problems so it’s totally okay to say whatever horrible things you want to them, right guysss??!

Another one is, “Have you been to the doctor?”

Or “Are you healthy?”

Yes and yes. No other explanation should be needed here.

Also, your friends are posting their ski trips on Instagram but alas, you have to pass on the winter sports because the cold is literally unbearable for you. I myself don’t mind this one too much since I’m a summer person anyway. I’ll take the warm sandy beach!

It’s also somehow acceptable for weirdos to grab your wrist with their thumb and forefinger in a circle, and look at it as if you are some kind of alien. But prepare for war if you retaliate by poking their stomach or something, which is just as bad, but you would totally never do that because that’s OMG SO MEANNN!

Go somewhere with only hard chairs? WOOT! Your ass is about to hurt and I hope you brought a pillow, because they will not make accommodations for your tiny butt.

And let’s not forget the whole “body positive” movement! You get to be “body positive” ONLY if you aren’t skinny. Because thin women don’t deserve to be “body positive” guys! *barf*

You may not complain of any ailments either, because there will always be THAT person who attributes your problems to being “too thin” or having “no meat on your bones.” I’m a very sweet, kind, patient and tolerant person 99.9% of the time. I do my best to ignore things that rub me the wrong way and focus on the positive. But the next person that says anything to me about “meat” and “bones” is going to be dragged by their hair into a world of pain! Because of this, I have to keep quiet most of the time when something is bothering me. Cold? It’s because there’s no meat on your bones! Got a headache? It’s because your skinny! Got a bruise on you leg from bumping into a table? It’s because your so skinny! Hungry? Tired? Stressed? Need a joint, a beer and a nice long nap? It’s because you’re so thin and must never eat! I could go on, but I’m sure you get the idea. It’s tough feeling like you can’t speak up when something is wrong, for fear of being judged. God forbid you ever end up with a serious health issue, or it will be ignored and attributed to being “too skinny.” I am so so thankful for the few girlfriends in my life that I can say these things to without judgement. They are what keep me sane.

The only real possible solution to any of this is to lift weights and do squats every single day (which I would LOVE to be able to do) but don’t we all get busy? Keeping up with a regimen is hard for anybody, even with all the time in the world and a personal trainer to light the fire under your butt. Even after a pretty long successful streak, the second I skip a few days I shrink back to tiny size! But then again, would it make me go up a clothing size? Would it make the cold more bearable? Who really knows, only time will tell. Maybe the mean comments would stop, maybe not. But as tempting as it is, we must make improvements to please ourselves and better our own lives, not to appease others who don’t truly matter. Oh well, gotta pick yourself back up. That is, after some much needed winter hibernation, of course! *huddles up under covers*

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What I Love About CBD Oil

Happy cyber-week and I hope you all had a blessed weekend! I recently received this gift from NW Hemp Products and wanted to share my experience. Since I’ve received it, I’ve been experimenting with different ways to use it and have been pleased with the results so far!

It’s called Go Green Hemp CBD Oil from the awesome folks at NW Hemp Products, and the instructions on the bottle say to take it orally as a dietary supplement. I dropped a few drops in my water bottle 2-3 times a day for the last week or so. It does make your water taste different (peppermint, in this case) but it’s not so overpowering that it takes over your tastebuds. Just a nice little bit of flavor!

As you may or may not know, hemp is quite the magical little plant. Not to be confused with marijuana, this stuff won’t get you stoned because it does not contain THC. So yes, you can drink it while doing important stuff and no, you won’t fail a pee test! Here’s the side of the box:

Some of the benefits to using CBD oil include cardiovascular health, decreased anxiety, and possible treatment of some neurological disorders such as seizures. Everyone is different of course (I’m totally not a doctor, heheheee), but all these results have been reported by people in the past. I have, however, done some of my own experimenting!

As far as that dull, yucky winter skin goes I tried putting a few drops on my face at night after I get out of the shower. It’s been AWESOME!! It absorbs nicely into my skin and the peppermint leaves my face with a nice cool tingle that makes it feel so clean! It also got rid of the dry, flakey patches pretty quick and they haven’t come back!

I find that hemp products absorb really well into my skin overall, which especially comes in handy during the winter months when you happen to be a germaphobe who washes your hands A LOT! A few drops on my knuckles where my skin was starting to crack, and POOF! Relief!! You can grab this oil or tons of other fabulous hemp products for a meaningful holiday gift (or treat yo self) right here! 😉

Have you tried it? What are your favorite hemp products? Let me know in the comments!! XO

Weird Beauty Secret: To Tape or Not To Tape?

You’ve most likely heard of a million different solutions or products geared toward women (and guys) who want to get rid of fine lines or wrinkles. Let me just say, I know I’m WAYYYY too young to be having this problem! It would seem the only real, promising solution is surgery. But after reading through different forums and comments on the internet, I’ve noticed I’m not the only 20-something having this issue. I’ve seen quite a few young women complaining of fine lines, mostly “smile lines.” This is what was bothering me the most, so I did some research.

After watching some YouTube reviews on various face-tape and sticky-like products, I read the comments and noticed people mentioning surgical paper tape.

Yep, that cheap gauze tape from the bandage section of the drug store.

So I tried it, and I want to share my experience with you guys! It’s NOT easy to admit to the whole internet, of course. It’s a somewhat embarrassing problem that I usually bitch about to close friends on FaceTime…in my robe….with my face covered in tape. But alas, this is what drives me insane pretty much every day, and what I’ve done about it:

You can see the line is not as deep and more of a “surface line.” However, you do have to do this all the time, preferably every night for the best results. The internet seems to be full of articles written by people whining about how this doesn’t really work. Well, that is because you have to keep doing it, and there is no guarantee since one persons skin is not going to be the same as another’s. You will most likely see results happen slowly over time. This is why it’s not considered a “permanent fix.” It does, however, make my skin feel and look tighter in the morning when done right!

Another thing to keep in mind is that you should find the stiffest tape possible!! This is actually very important. The flimsy dollar store tape may give you some results, but could leave you with residual lines once you remove the tape.

Don’t be alarmed, though. Those will disappear as the morning wears on. But the better solution is to just avoid the cheap tape (lesson learned!!) It may also take a few tries to get the hang of it, since everyone’s face is different.

If this is something you want to try, here’s a few key points to sum things up:

•place tape long ways along the “wrinkle”

•make sure your face is clean

•you may do this after your nightly skin care routine

• always use the stiffest tape possible

•be sure to use tape that is meant for skin, NEVER use masking tape or any other tape not in the bandage section!! It could have chemicals on it that you don’t want on your skin!😵

Have you tried it? Let me know in the comments! XO

Grow Badass Nails With a Few Simple Tricks! 

No, I didn’t glue those on. I grew them myself. I wasn’t born with perfectly strong nails, either. They used to suck and I had trouble growing them long because they would peel. So yes, if you follow a few simple steps, you CAN grow nice nails! Here are some things I’ve tried that have given me awesome results:

  • Biotin (Vitamin B7)

You can grab a bottle of Biotin at the drugstore or health food store for not very expensive. It didn’t take long for me to see results once I started taking them. Biotin is important for keeping an overall youthful appearance because it keeps hair, skin and nails strong.

  • Vitamin C

Since your body doesn’t naturally make it’s own vitamin C, It’s important to get it either by taking vitamins or following a diet naturally rich in vitamin C.

  • Give them some air!

If you take your nail polish or acrylics off and notice that your nails look yellow underneath, leave them bare for a while. Yeah, I know that goes against some girls entire way of existence, but trust me, just giving your nails air and sunlight once in a while does wonders! After all, they do need some oxygen!

  • Moisturize your cuticles

Keeping your cuticles moist (especially during cold weather season) is the best way to keep them looking smooth and keep those stupid hangnails away! I recommend this one.

  • Wear dish gloves

It’s better to have some protection while cleaning dishes (or anything else, for that matter) so your nails have less chance of chipping or getting exposed to chemicals that could damage them.

  • Clean your tools


If you do your own nails, your best bet is to use metal tools and clean them! Leave them in a mixture of water and rubbing alcohol, and let them chill while you go and do something else! This will help keep any nasty bacteria from possibly spreading.

  • Don’t bite them!

I know, easier said than done. But if you can remember, carry a file with you if you can. That way you’ll be prepared if you hit a snag (pun intended)!

Tag me in your nail pics on Instagram @stephaniepicss or use the tag #urbanmermaid ! 💅🏼

My Favorite Apps That Keep You Fit

You probably already know that your smartphone and tablet can be a great tool to help you stay fit and healthy (that is, if you aren’t spending too much time on your butt watching movies or tweeting) but you may or may not have already decided to take advantage of the many health apps out there. Here, I’ve made a short list of a few apps for Apple and Android that I use myself and love!
Daily Yoga


Daily Yoga gives you yoga lessons and meditation sessions right on your phone! It also keeps track of what sessions you’ve completed and how many calories you’ve burned. You get plenty of sessions for free, but you have the option to upgrade to pro if you want more.

 

Kindara

 

This one is just for girls! It helps you keep track of your monthly cycle. You enter your data and it keeps a chart for you! It has a lot of features, so don’t get overwhelmed when using it at first! It comes with plenty of instructions! Kindara gives you tons of information about your reproductive health, and you can even share your charts with a community of other women and ask questions (but that part is totally optional!) It’s useful for all purposes, weather you are trying to get pregnant, trying to avoid pregnancy naturally (yes, you can do that) or just making sure all your plumbing is in working order!

 

Fooducate


The Fooducate app is a handy little app that scans barcodes on food for you, and gives it a grade depending on how healthy or unhealthy it is. It’s quite useful for avoiding processed junk! If in doubt, scan the barcode and see the rating! Fooducate tells you why a product is good or bad for you, and offers a list of better alternatives to the not-so-healthy stuff.

 

Ipiit

 

Ipiit is similar to Fooducate, but what makes it different is that you can set your own criteria for what you want in your food. For example: non-gmo, gluten free, all natural coloring and flavoring, etc. Once you scan a barcode, Ipiit will tell you weather or not the product is for you based on your chosen criteria.

 

I hope you give some of these a try, and let me know in the comments if you know of any more healthy apps that have worked for you!

Eat Yourself Pretty!

They say you are what you eat, so here I have put together a list of 10 of my favorite “beauty foods!”
1. Salmon

Not only is salmon delicious, it is rich in omega-3 fatty acids which is “good fat,” and packed with all kinds of healthy stuff! It’s full of antioxidants and keeps your skin beautiful and youthful by reducing inflammation and fighting signs of aging. (Hint: salmon also makes you more fertile!)

2. Sweet Potatoes

These little orange potatoes are one of my favorite go-to staples for a meal that’s also a beauty treatment! They’re full of omega-3s (again), zinc and magnesium. When they’re mashed, they can either be eaten or applied directly to your skin as a face mask!

3. Avocados

Avocados, like sweet potatoes, can also be used as a face mask! I prefer to slice them with a bit of seasoning and eat them with a meal or as a snack, but most people prefer them as guacamole dip. They are also good for fighting signs of aging and keeping skin vibrant with antioxidants and carotenoids.

4. Soy

Soy comes in many forms, including (but not limited to) edamame, tofu, tempeh and soy beans. It’s a great substitute for things like meat because it’s low in fat and high in protein. It’s got tons of vitamins, minerals and omega-3s, and also fights dark spots on the skin in addition to keeping hair and nails healthy. Soy helps maintain skin’s elasticity while also treating the appearance of excess oil!

5. Strawberries

Aside from being sweet and tasty, they are full of vitamin C to give you an extra boost! They also (like soy) reduce oily skin and the appearance of scars. Oh yeah, and they can be made into a face mask, too!

6. Red Bell Peppers

Why red specifically? Because they have more vitamin C than other bell peppers. They are also anti-inflammatory and low in calories! (That is, until you break out the ranch veggie dip).

7. Carrots

Again with the orange vegetables. That’s because orange veggies contain more vitamins and minerals that protect your skin. A big benefit of carrots is that they protect against sun damage. It’s like sunscreen that works from the inside out!

8. Olive Oil

Olive oil is an excellent cooking substitute for butter, since it’s much healthier and full of fatty acids, monounsaturated antioxidants, and is awesome for preventing signs of aging.

9. Kale

You’ve probably heard kale being referred to as a “super food.” It’s one of the best sources of iron, vitamin C and omega-3s. It keeps your hair strong and shiny as well as keeping your skin vibrant and youthful.

10. Almond Milk

Almond milk is a much better alternative to regular milk! Aside from being full of antioxidants and vitamin E for healthy skin, it also makes a great protein shake to boost your workout!
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